“The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one.” ~ J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye
I’ve been thinking about the dreaded word again, it’s only natural, it being almost “that” holiday again. I know, I hate it when I do this. I think some of you hate it too. Love. Love is a subject that’s been trivialized, dramatized, glorified and traumatized, and that’s just on my blog. Heck, more than half the time I know I am half-deluded on exactly what it is, and isn’t. I reckon for the most part, we can’t see it if it slapped us upsides our head and yelled “I’m standing right here in front of you for crying out loud!” Because, gee, isn’t love supposed to knock us off our feet and make us swoon? Now Jay, I know it’s been a while, but some of my long time readers may remember him, he was certainly swoon worthy, at least Katy the wonder dog sure acted that way. But it wasn’t love, was it? Isn’t a guy supposed be all packaged neat in a tall, slim, witty, masculine [insert whatever adjective here] package? I think often we’ve all gotten so lost in the dream we fail to recognize it’s real version anymore.
Love is all around us, it always has been. It’s in the special efforts our friends make toward us, just for a smile. It’s in the laughter of a young child and in the faith they put in us that we will protect them above all costs. It’s most definitely in nature, the serenading birds, and the winds as they whisper their secrets through the trees, the sun on a wintry day as it bends low to kiss our faces warmly. It’s in the “how are you?” a complete stranger offers up as they pass us by, you know, those moments when they actually listen to your response. Love is all around us.
I’ve seen so many women dazed with this expectation of what love SHOULD be, sometimes myself included. We believe we “aren’t complete” without a man and so we grab and discard in the attempt to find the partner who will make us “whole.” Seriously, look in a full length mirror, I guarantee that’s not a part of a human looking back at you. We are born whole, along the way we removed little pieces and parts that we believe are lacking in our inane pursuit of being someone we perceive to be better, but underneath our misguided misconception, we are indeed, still whole. The problem with thinking someone else can make us whole is only we can put back the pieces we removed, we are the sole commanders of our own destiny’s. Only we can truly be our own soul mate.
The take from? Yeah, I suppose I’ve traveled this far, might as well kick it in. Lately, in my virtual life and my real one, I’ve seen quite a few women give themselves to men who clearly didn’t give a wooden nickel for them or in the politically correct side, weren’t as “invested” in (or for that matter even free to be with) them. They settled for pieces of a relationship thinking that’s all they could get/need/want. There is one thing I know with all of my heart. Love. A relationship should bring you joy, not every once in a while, but pretty much most of the time. Love never requires you to lose your voice, your dignity, or your choice, even if it’s the choice to agree this time. And most of all, when you bring your love to the table, the lover should allow you to bring all of you to the table, not just the pieces and parts they find “worthy” of them. The final and best part about love? It should leave you with the feeling it has somehow blossomed ten-fold within you, but then, that’s just my two cents on it. I know, I can be a silly romantic that way.
Hair: *Argrace*, Yuzu **NEW** Shirt: Seul, Pearl Tank @Uber Skirt: Seul, Bulma Skirt @Uber Necklace: Zibska, Zvonimira Deux @[event@1st] Bag: [HANDverk], Stud Clutch Shoos: Zibska, Isa Eyemakeup: Zibska, Noir Limited @Project Limited Skin: Glam Affair, Rose Arctic Hands/Feet: SLink Pose: Attitude Poses
Never content with just one world, Azure had long ago mastered the skill of landwalking. The first shifting had been awkward, her new-shaped limbs as useless as a baby fish tail, shuddering on reflex instead of control. But she had learned since. She had learned well.
She taught the craft now to the other curious mermaids, how to control two narrower, more angular tails, how to balance upright on them, how to survive in thin non-supporting air instead of the stronger embrace of water. How to transmute sea shells and coral into human body ornaments and wrappings.
It was perhaps the biggest challenge of them all, to learn which parts of the body should be wrapped in decor and which not, but after the initial mistakes and a lot of landwalker observation, Azure was now confident she had it right. If she could just find landwalkers with a normal skin colour instead of this one endless tribe of sand tones, she’d be happy.
But no matter how far she had searched she could find no blues and the sand-skins kept raising strange structures wherever she had visited and burning small fires in them. Kneeling was also commonplace, but Azure assumed it was to show off their superior limb control. If she could only find normal people things would be easier: they would explain the landwalker oddities to their mer-cousin, those normal blue people.
The Draco Odyssey/Laguna skin by Fallen Gods Inc. is available in We Love Roleplay event. Azure’s skin was the scaled version underwater and smooth when rising to the surface. The mask by Senzafine, octobra by ieQED, fishnet dress by FDD and the Nereid dress by lassitude & ennui are all from the current round of The Fantasy Collective, conveniently themed around mermaids. The hair by Exile is available in Collabor88.
Scene:Cerridwen’s Cauldron – Jellyfish Weed Crownleaf, Hydra Anemone Indigo 20 Tentacles | Fantasy Flora – Fantasy Sea Grass Light Blue & Fantasy Bubble Plant Blue | Chair: 22769 ~ [bauwerk] Tentacle Chair
Body: Skin: Fallen Gods Inc. – Draco Odyssey/Laguna Scaled Marks Awake & Smooth* | Eyes: ~*By Snow*~ Midnight Eyes II Indigo* | Lashes: Redgrave – 39 – Luscious | Hair: Exile – Windsong | Tail: !deviousMind – Undine Electric Blue | Hands & Feet: Slink
I'm wearing: Hair: ""D!va"" Hair "Yunie" (Topaz) (by Marisa Kira) NEW@Collabor88 Skin:-Belleza- Mae TLC Med 4 Dk (by Shyla Diggs) Eyes:IKON Deadshine Eyes – Blue (Natural) (by Ikon Innovia) NEW Jewerly:Cae :: Romantique :: Collection (by Caelan Hancroft) NEW @ The Liaison Collaborative (opens January 15) Dress: Valentina E. I Will Break Your Heart Dress S Bisque NEW @ The Liaison Collaborative (opens January 15)
The Marlena Halter Top and the Uniform Tweed pants I’m wearing here are last weeks releases at Sn@tch but they can still be found on the new release wall just inside the entrance to the store. The hair is new from Truth and comes with a pretty little jewel (not shown here) and can be found at Uber!!
:::Sn@tch Uniform Tweed Pants (Black-P)::: Miamai_XGen Makeup_Basic Lashes B Black – No Hair -Belleza- Venus :::Sn@tch Marlena Halter Top (Teal-Med)::: TRUTH HAIR Minerva -Belleza- Mae TLC Med 4 R IKON ‘Sunrise’ Eyes – White M Pose: Marukin
I helped Synyster Creations to set up their inworld store. I do like interior design, helped to set up the square in the front, and of course landed a hand with a few pics too. Syn has a great deal of awesome group gifts for men on display, the T-shirt featured here is just one among the few.
I also got invited to blog for Paper Dolls, so people following both blogs might see similar posts from me for a while.
Speaking of Paper Dolls, Ember wrote a great article on blogging for SL, it is a must read for all fellow bloggers. I have compiled a page full of such articles, it will be under constant construction, but I decided to go public with it anyway.