Hey all! Today’s look was inspired by soft colors and flowers, if you have followed my blog for a while you probably now by now how much I like flower crowns. Anyway, hope you enjoy this look.
- Eyes: IKON – Triumph Eyes Oxidation
- Hair and Flowers: LeLutka – H-NV0002
- Mesh Head: CATWA – Candy
- Mesh Body: Maitreya – Lara
- Appliers: DeeTaleZ – Fable MixedType
- Nails: Nailed It – Glitter Silver
- Gown: Thalia Heckroth – Nisha Gown
- Jewelry: Paper Couture – Ombre Pearls Set
- Pose: Ma Vie – This is my Land 08.
This weekend I had the pleasure of demo bottoming for a shibari (kinbaku) class at the local dungeon. This is something I never thought I would be able to do, on account of my advancing age, my funny face and my generous stomach, not to mention my inexperience. (Where “experience” means two or three years participating in a committed heteronormative relationship with weekly painful, upside-down suspensions mimicking circus-style professional rope performances and/or high-end photographs of full-time bondage models.) It’s true that I wasn’t asked to bottom, but when I found out that the man I’d started playing with was going to teach a class, I volunteered by text and he responded with an (admittedly non-stoked-sounding) “okay.” In January at Shibaricon, I had stepped up as a last-minute bottom when he, a total stranger, needed a partner for a private class with a fabulous rigger. That was an extraordinary experience. I thought it was only fitting that we recreate it. We’d played a couple of times before we met for this week’s rehearsal. I had discovered that he is really mean and prefers to be brutal, and I am not someone who wants to be brutalized. (I had, it’s true, enjoyed grappling with him and trying to evade his assaults. The vicious hairpulling and unrelenting pressure-point-pushing were tough but … well, let’s just say that, if he ever asks, I will not hesitate to deny any interest in breast slapping and nipple twisting.) So I arrived at his place feeling like there wasn’t much hope that we’d be anything but teammates for a single class and thereafter wave to each other at munches. But then we rehearsed and my feelings changed.
We discovered that my top doesn’t have to thump me to be mean. He has the option of meanly keeping me in line, something I never thought I’d allow. The type of rope he was set to teach is derived from Yukimura Haruki’s style and philosophy. It’s designed to exercise close control over the bottom’s body, and yet because the techniques of capturing and tying the bottom use the bottom’s body “against” her, I got to be far more mobile than I could be in a typical partial suspension with impact play. An aspect of this style that I particularly enjoy—because I like to feel humiliated—is the top exposing the bottom’s body. The day we rehearsed, I was wearing a long skirt. My top reached out along my extended leg to slowly pull the skirt up till it covered only a few inches of my upper thigh. When I half-whined “My leg is cold,” he responded “Tough.” This made me giggle on the inside, so he wouldn’t hear me, because it was the perfect rebuff of a gratuitous complaint. When we taught the class a few days later, he gave me the option to demonstrate how fruitless it would be to struggle. That seemed lame, so I said “ummm” and then tried to escape completely. He brought me down easily. I yelped and groaned and knelt with my head to the mat to demonstrate my complete surrender. He rotated me 45 degrees so that the class could see the next part of the demo and then shocked the hell out of me when he smacked my foot to drive my leg back into the proper position. I deserved that, exactly that, as a correction to my behavior, and it was perfectly satisfying. He felt that way too. (There’s nudity under the cut. For realz.) (more…)
Some beautifully crafted recent releases to show you – if you don’t know this store, you really need to! Expert in tailoring to the multiple mesh body format:
The exquisitely detailed Mirage dress, comes with a HUD to adjust beading, string and panties
Tess Tank top and Penny shorts – perfect for lazy summery afternoons
You can find these at Just Because where you can also join the group for beautiful gifts!
Hair: Elikatira ~ Elodie
Pants: Addams ~ Tameka Eco Leather Leggings
Shoes: Empire ~ Orchid @ Fanatasy collective